Are you going out with someone who...

• Is jealous and possessive, preventing you from hanging out with your friends, or checking up on you when you are with other people?
• Tries to control you by giving orders, making all the decisions, and forcing their opinions?
• Scares you, threatens you, or uses weapons, so that you worry about how they will react to things you say or do?
• Is violent, and has a history of fighting, losing their temper quickly, or bragging about mistreating others?
• Treats you like a sex object.Pressures you for sex by manipulation or guilt trips, saying, “if you really loved me…"?
• Abuses drugs and alcohol and urges you to do the same?
• Gets seriously involved in the relationship too quickly?
• Blames you for their behavior, saying you provoke them or make them treat you badly?
• Has a history of bad relationships, blaming everyone else for their problems?
• Believes that they should be in control, and that you should be passive and submissive?
• Makes you afraid to end the relationship because you don’t know what they will do?

If so, tell someone about it. Get help from a trusted friend or family member, or call Tri-County Council to speak with an advocate. 24-hour, free, confidential help is available at 1(800) 236-1222.